https://youtu.be/VLnWf1sQkjY

thats true. its my own fault in some ways. meaning that i could have prevented it via backups.
i suppose i could channel my feelings in that direction. however, even before this, i had plans of moving away from apps. apps dont provide necessary features that i need.
its like.. for example.. why would you ever need a complicated selfhosted cloud software to store your notes(bad example RN). my reasoning: someone else wrote the software for general users. if the task is simple(writing text to a file).. i ought to just write it myself, for my own needs. its not hard and its really important that it works and is controllable.
apps are kinda cute and ergonomic for touchscreens(maybe*). i would still use it when i absolutely need that. but any other case, i would take the opportunity to take full control of my workflow.

Take these feelings and channel that into backups and backup those backups. Happens to the best of us eventually. Sorry for your loss

Not to get political right here

What do you want?

TIFOIFU!

who gives a fuck what a bunch of random people think

Congratulations, anyway.

I can respect that. I can tell you that you actually get very little attention at commencement. You're in a sea of other people dressed exactly the same as you are. You're all seated/standing/walking in a giant group. Unless you are being recognized for some outstanding achievement the most attention you get is when your name is mentioned when being handed a piece of paper. Even then its one name of hundreds or thousands being mentioned that day. Sure there's hundreds or thousands of spectators, but none of them know who you are and are paying any attention to you. They're there for their own person and you being there doesn't even register with them. If you're worried about attention, its nearly the opposite as you're being anonymized in a group.

I am positive the only people that remember my commencements for either of my degrees are me, my (now) wife, and my mom. One other note: at the time, I hadn't counted on how important it was for my mom to see it. In retrospect I understand raising a child is years of hard work and a constant worry about if you're raising your children right. Seeing them graduate would be a great measure that you did well as a parent.

Still, there's no requirement to do it and if thats not for you, thats just fine.

I appreciate that but the ceremony and pomp and circumstance doesn't work for me. I just get embarrassed and feel bad. I am proud of the accomplishment, but I don't want the attention.

Ask if your employer offers raises if you obtain a college degree. If the answer is yes, THEN tell them you found out you have one.

Yeah I can't expect any huge changes but I've been working in retail the last month, emotionally struggling, and this makes a difference

Thank you, it's been a wild afternoon trying to figure this out.

Just do what every PhD dropped does - put "all but dissertation" as the very last bullet in your CV.

I definitely would have bid myself for some jobs/applications that have a bullshit requirement of having college degree. No regrets but things might have been different.

Thats great! Kind of like that movie where someone is wrongly diagnosed with a month to live so they do everythibg they wanted to and find out they actually weren't gonna die and their life greatly improved.

Obviously thats not real life but still an interesting thought. I often want to quit my boring job but it pays well and is pretty easy. Just wasting 45 hours a week seems like something I'll regret. But I like money.

Ok so.. what exactly is the fuckup? Did you miss out on stuff because you thought you lacked qualifications?

I've read that universities can choose to let alumni walk for graduation at a later date. Since you did the work you may be entitled to it. If you would feel its important to have that experience you should reach out to your school and see if they'd let you. I think if I were in your shoes, I'd do it in a second. Its a quintessential experience and public recognition of your efforts.

Congrats!

I'm thinking about this, but my HR rep isn't here today.

Now my ASM is 'following' me on that platform. (notification about it, ~2hrs after deleting the comment)

Go self report to HR right now (so they read it on Monday morning). Say you’re willing to apologize publicly and do any communication training. If HR is aware when the VP goes to them with the complaint, they might have something to defend you. Lay it on thick - say you got triggered and shouldn’t have sent it and you definitely need the job because of financial difficulties and it would mean the world if the company (and that HR specifically) supported you in this difficult time in your life.

You skipped at least two steps in the situation

They are dangerous anyway. Get a regular leash to replace it.

Hey, the important thing is that you made it home without dropping trou. Did you have to pass, say, a school at any point? Now THAT’S a story… and possibly an arrest.

My backup leads for when I forget the real one include

A cat6 cable

A cloverleaf laptop power cable

A figure8 power cable

A tie down strap