It's one of the draws to people who are as trashy as sl forum users, yeah. You can still get in trouble if you try virtually sexual assault someone on SL, just by a report, it'll be classified as unwanted attention or something. Though the idea of someone being dragged into a court room over such a thing is an amusing idea to me.

But nonetheless, SL has harbored some numerous controversy over the years. Virtual Secrets, a virtual burn book, is evidence of that though currently it is down.

I mean, isn't "virtual sexual assault" without consequence one of the draws of SL? Seems like the type of people who wouldn't be very respectful in general.

There's a nonbinary community on the Blahaj.zone instance. I'm subscribed.

I'm imagining you with a rolodex of urls that you manually type in every time you go to a website.

!nonbinary@lemmy.blahaj.zone

That any better?

Jesus, that length of a link. Yeah how am I supposed to know that off hand?

Everything computer is binary

Something like https://lem.lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/nonbinary ?

Are you looking for a community or an instance? Communities are much easier to create.

None there either.

Blahaj?

but does it matter if the government is right winged if the PEOPLE of Japan want legalized gay marriage?

....Cause theyre afraid of the robbed Indigenous Palestinian ghosts which they walk over every second of every day?

I hate howw people choose to let bigotry become the default.

I have heard a million stories just like yours and Im sorry for yor paiin and your fiancêe's 🫂

Glad thatt youre embracing who you are 🫂

...Im proud of him.

Im just pissed off that marco rubio's plans to desocialise Cuba have thoroughly worked as he wanted them to. 😔

You would think that all these stupider neighbours would have smartened up by now after seeing all this needless suffering of kind 2SLGBTQIA+ peoples for centuries and centuries....and yett....they dont... 😐

🫂 Hoppe you meet people who will be kind to you as you experienment on this journey with themu 🫂

Also Id recommend you avoid online events. Not a single oerson I met from those online meetup events has remained in contact with me.

A few of the ones I met in-person have done so however....

I just feel that conmecting after 30 becomes not harder but just more selctive. Because since everyone there knows themselves more thoroughly as 30+ year old adults they know more thoroughly wjo they will reject from their friend group(s) or thrust into. their friend grroup(s)

So Ill say it hasnt becoeme harder , its just that you become better at excluding bigoted fascists who could more easily hide their true evil opinions whe you were all teens or in your 20s.

Basically connecting in your 30s becomes more selective because you realiize that fascists easily connect with other fascists meanwhile you and your real friends, as a pro-LGBTQIA+ person, have become smart enough to to select in annd select out ppeople into or out of your friend groups based on what they do or say to you and your lovedd ones that proves or disproves thatt theyre bigoted fascists.

I agree.

I just feel that conmecting after 30 becomes not harder but just more selctive. Because since everyone there knows themselves more thoroughly as 30+ year old adults they know more thoroughly wjo they will reject from their friend group(s) or thrust into. their friend grroup(s)

So Ill say it hasnt becoeme harder , its just that you become better at excluding bigoted fascists who could more easily hide their true evil opinions whe you were all teens or in your 20s.

Basically connecting in your 30s becomes more selective because you realiize that fascists easily connect with other fascists meanwhile you and your real friends, as a pro-LGBTQIA+ person, have become smart enough to to select in annd select out ppeople into or out of your friend groups based on what they do or say to you and your lovedd ones that proves or disproves thatt theyre bigoted fascists.

I always hear stuff like, it being impossible to make connections after 30..is that just nonsense, or is it really like that?

That's nonsense, from experience. In fact, I feel like I have an easier time making connections in my 30s since we're all adults.

It really depends on where you live and what your hobbies are. Search online for local queer groups who participate in said hobbies

Thanks, I'll definitely give meetup a chance.

I really wish that first part were true. The closest gay bar near me is 45min+ away. Otherwise that is good advice though. I'll seek out basic social groups i think. There just isn't much here besides typical bars full of prejudice rednecks.

There are lots of apps that have come out recently specifically for the purpose of getting people to events. My personal favorite has been Meetup which has introduced me to everything from foraging classes, to weird movies, and even holiday festivals I didn't know existed.

I highly recommend checking out Meetup and going to some of the LGBTQ+ events that are hosted around you. You'll meet lots of really cool people!