If all you do is scroll Facebook and dating apps then yeah it's impossible.

If you want to meet people you have to go places people are. Every town and City that has a bar has a gay bar. You just got to find it. Trivia nights are a great way to test out bars. If you don't have a community that can direct you. Also, other community groups like mutual aid groups tend to be more queer friendly.

The kink community also has a large number of queer folks participating.

The other nice thing about the kink community is they put on a lot of vanilla events just for social reasons. Things like munches in my area. Kayaking, canoeing, hiking, game nights. Often just joining the community. Will let you see calendars and events posted.

But again the critical thing is you have to go and you have to talk to people. Otherwise you probably won't connect.