I just feel that conmecting after 30 becomes not harder but just more selctive. Because since everyone there knows themselves more thoroughly as 30+ year old adults they know more thoroughly wjo they will reject from their friend group(s) or thrust into. their friend grroup(s)

So Ill say it hasnt becoeme harder , its just that you become better at excluding bigoted fascists who could more easily hide their true evil opinions whe you were all teens or in your 20s.

Basically connecting in your 30s becomes more selective because you realiize that fascists easily connect with other fascists meanwhile you and your real friends, as a pro-LGBTQIA+ person, have become smart enough to to select in annd select out ppeople into or out of your friend groups based on what they do or say to you and your lovedd ones that proves or disproves thatt theyre bigoted fascists.