Context for the q: was browsing tiktok and saw a video while scrolling. it was about a 35 year old woman with a 25 year old boyfriend. Everyone in the comments said it's wrong and predatory, how 25 is basically a kid and 35 is middle aged, etc

[–] [S] 1 point 9 months ago* (5 children)

From the accounts I’ve read and heard, the smell was so strong that people could notice it even after a girl or woman simply bent over in front of them (while clothed) or shifted her weight in her seat (again, while clothed), small movements like that were enough for it to be detected from across the room.

There's a well-known joke about this, the one where a blind man walks past a fish market and says, "Good morning, ladies."

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    I've been a tomboy from a young age. My friends have always been guys, and I developed a dislike for being around other girls around age 10-11 because the people who bullied me were all girls.

    When I was a teenager, I kept hearing that girls and women supposedly have a strong "fishy" smell. I know it's a meme, but I'd seen and read enough firsthand stories that it stuck with me. I even came across accounts from gay men who said that every woman they knew smelled that way, and that it influenced their attraction to men.

    In my case, I seem to be an exception. There's no fishy smell on myself, just normal skin or sweat when I'm active, or at night when I'm due to shower. But that actually made me even more uncomfortable around groups of girls and women, because I really hate the smell of fish or seafood in general, and if there's a lot of women in a room, that smell lingers even after they've left.

    Sometimes I feel embarrassed, because people see me, see that I'm female, and I worry they automatically assume I've got a rotting crab factory somewhere.

     

    He's elderly (84 or 85). My house is joined with his. There's a third house that is partially joined to his and they recently had a new kitchen fitted, so there was a lot of drilling in the morning. Since then, he's been blasting the radio on what sounds like a subwoofer aimed against the wall every morning at 7 AM. I live with my brother and my mum, and it wakes us all up. It's a very deep bassy noise so it's hard to block out or drown out. It goes on until 1 PM.

    He is doing this on purpose. He did the same thing in 2023 and I went over to his house assuming he didn't know he was being loud and politely told him to turn his TV down in the morning because it's waking us up. Then he told me he's doing it to wake my brother up because "every night at 1:30 AM he wakes me up making wolf noises in the garden so I'll wake him up too since he's obviously not sleeping during the night since he's making noises all night" (foxes frequently visit our garden at night). He's also accused my brother of "cloning my phone", "stealing my water", "stealing my food deliveries", and other crackpot things.

    All Summer this year he was blasting one of those 120 dB sirens at 1:30, 2:30, and 3:30 AM each night. He'd then scream at the wall for a minute or two after sounding the siren, seemingly to do with my brother. Sometimes he'd then wake up at 7 AM and immediately go and blast the radio all day. He would also come outside into his garden with a frying pan calling my brother's name. The sirens stopped in July.

    The kitchen work on the third house is done and was completed on the 24th of November, but they've left a fridge next to my neighbour's drive. A few days ago he came outside and my mum heard him yell "move your fridge, [brother's name]!".

    In August and September and much of October he was quiet but now he's blasting the radio multiple days in a row for weeks on end. I have health problems and don't need this. I have other things going on in my life and recently this was the straw that broke the camel's back and I had a mental breakdown on the 1st of December which caused me to knock stuff off a shelf which caused a very old and very sentimental item of mine to break (I did not mean to break it, just to knock stuff off the shelf). I feel on edge because I can't really sleep early because he also blasts his TV until 12 PM. It's not just the loud noise, it's also the reason he's doing it.

    We have complained numerous times to the council (environmental health), as well as the police. They have sent him letters but he has ignored all of them and continues the harassment. He is obviously refusing to take his medication.

    He has also called the police on us and we had two police officers arrive at our door. All 3 of us are not well and need our sleep. I don't want to move as this was my grandparent's house that was given to us by them after they died.

    We are at wit's end here. We just want the harassment to stop. Is there a way we could get him sectioned?

    [–] [S] 1 point 11 months ago* (1 child)

    Update: The bowl is fixed! It's not perfect, some pieces were very slightly out of alignment but it's intact again and I filled in a little gap too. Feel so relieved! Was surprised with how hot the adhesive got in the little tub as it set and now leaving the bowl 2 days for it to fully cure before using it

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 11 months ago* (1 child)

    I have the pieces and I put the pieces together like a jigsaw puzzle. There's 6 pieces total, and the bowl looks like a very fat crescent moon shape broken. Like a circle with a circular chip in it.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 child)

    We were both 19 when he died in an accident. So this bowl reminds me of happier times before things went South and this bowl has been through a lot of stuff with me since then too. It's a relic of my teenage years which were the best years of my life. My adult years have yet to be better.

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    Someone in my street keeps harassing me and my family, and I lost my temper 2 days ago and whacked a bunch of things off a shelf. One of the heavier things ended up falling on my soup bowl and smashed a third of it. That specific soup bowl has been discontinued for many years. The manufacturer did make very similar soup bowls just with a different pattern on them, but they're old and only being sold on places like Ebay. I'm going to take the bowl out of the trash tomorrow and measure it in detail and maybe post it on Facebook to see if anyone has this bowl. I feel like a whole bunch of nice memories have been literally smashed, like that bowl was with me for all that time and I smashed it by accident. That bowl was like a friend and reminded me of a time in my life where I was happy so just ordering some generic soup bowl that isn't extremely similar or the same is going to remind me of what I've lost.