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[–] 30 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Not my kind of thing, but people should be able to have whatever fun they want with their bodies as long as they're not hurting anyone.

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Devils advocate - promiscuous behavior can cause harm to others with the spread of stds unwanted pregnancies etc. (fyi I agree with you but this is the general argument against it)

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  • [–] 8 points 9 months ago*

    Yeah but it's manageable. Everyone in our community tests every 3 months, I also have the VPH vaccine.

    The only one time I came close was 2 years ago, a friend called me and said she had gonorrea and I had to get tested. I didn't have it but the chance was low anyway because I never have intercourse without condom. Even in relationships I don't. I only do oral without. Condoms don't bother me and I like the slightly reduced sensitivity so I can go longer and edging becomes easier. I even use condoms with toys.

    The HPV vaccine I did want to get because it's high risk now, there's two variants which often cause cancer. And condoms don't fully prevent it.

    So anyway it's very manageable if you're not careless.

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  • [–] 12 points 9 months ago

    Go wild, just be safe.

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  • [–] 10 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    I like it. It's fun, sometimes you make a real connection and it feels really good. Sometimes not and it's meh. But still it beats sitting at home alone.

    I do really like to take my time though. Which can be an issue because surprisingly many people really want quickies.

    For me it's not right if I don't spend at least an hour on foreplay, teasing etc. Chatting. Give an erotic massage, go down etc. I even like that better than intercourse. The whole bang bang bye in 10 minutes doesn't really do it for me. But even in the very promiscuous culture it doesn't have to be like that. Especially in the hetero scene.

    When you find someone nice the mood can easily go that way and then it's amazing. Also, it's nice to share intimacy with different people, different energies. Sometimes it doesn't happen but still it's worth the try.

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  • [–] 10 points 9 months ago

    When I was dating I avoided it, so not my thing really but I do not mind other people doing it as long as they show respect.

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  • [–] 7 points 9 months ago

    There's nothing wrong with them as long as they are consensual. You spend a few hours with someone who you like. You both treat sex as a pleasant activity. Not a big emotional drama. You fuck. It's fun. And then it's over.

    You have a few drinks with someone that you are meeting for the first time. You could go to a movie. But why not just fuck. Costs less and much more fun

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  • [–] 6 points 9 months ago

    I feel like we shouldn't be so dramatic about sex (while it's between consenting adults). I should be seen as a simple physical activity, healthy and pleasant, that demands skills and practice, with preventable risks. Like lots of non competitive physical activities, actually.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 months ago

    Due diligence. Find the best places to cruise, the best techniques. Learn where the shitty people are, etc. It can be so much fun when everything is consensual and all of like mind. Get tested on the regular, and expect the same.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    Grown ass consenting adults can do whatever they want in their private spaces.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    I have my hands for simple pleasures. It's more fun to actually get to know who you are fucking.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    i feel it's 70/30 between fun/fine/neutral and awful. Though there is very little in between neutral and awful and that never has to do with the quality of the sex.

    That said if it was good both sex and connection it wouldn't end up a one-night stand so 🤷

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  • More effort than they're worth for me, and what other people do with their spare time isn't my concern

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    I need explanation on "Cruising Culture"

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    It's fun, but condoms suck and the best sex is after you figure out what the other person likes, which can be hard to do after a few drinks and not much time.

    I wouldn't turn it down, but I prefer medium to long term friends with benefits.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    Nah. I want to stay healthy and keep our relationship for just us. Have fun though 😎

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (6 children)

    Only way to get to know new people in Norway.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (5 children)

    One-night stand means one-time

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  • [–] 0 points 9 months ago (4 children)

    And the normal is to get new friends through sex, but not having sex with friends, making the sex a one time thing.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (3 children)

    And you are just...friends after, and never do anything?

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Normally yes, several of my closest friends today started out that way.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (1 child)

    Holy fucking shit...

    ...what? Fucking each other was the only thing you had incommon?

    And that friendship held together after?

    Well, glad it did. But that is quite unusual.

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago

    Norwegians are weird socially. You normally sleep together a couple of times before deciding if you'd want to date each other, and if not, but the connection is good, a friendship can form from it.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (2 children)

    personally I wouldn't put my dick in a woman's vag unless she offered a long term relationship. I'd happily do other things though!

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