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[–] 71 points 11 months ago

Can we just leave people alone for fuck's sake. What's this reporter's malfunction that it matters so much that someone is bi? Is it hurting you? Are they affecting anyone else by existing? Just let people find love and be happy.

"I need you to prove it to me"

Get fucked

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  • [–] 58 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Dude was in the bathroom at a Lady Gaga concert.

    For fuck's sake bitch how much proof do you need

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  • [–] 52 points 11 months ago (9 children)

    It sounds to me like she was sexually harassing him.

    I am not bi, but I wonder if bisexual people didn't get the worst name for their sexuality. Because I suspect that most of them simply don't care about the other person's gender. I think they're attracted to the person themselves, regardless of gender. And now that people accept that there are more than two genders, the "bi" in "bisexual", meaning "two" seems overly specific.

    But anyways, back to the example at hand, assuming that his type of "bi" means that he cares about other stuff more than gender, it's hard to imagine a worse way to come onto him than to do what that lady did. "I have a terrible personality, now let's see that hard dick."

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  • [–] 33 points 11 months ago (6 children)

    Not an expert, but I've always understood that what you're describing is pansexual. I've understood the bisexual is general attraction to both men and women. Pansexual is attraction to any person.

    Again, give or take any given person's own chosen labels and attractions that might vary.

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  • [–] 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    I've heard that. I've heard bi used to mean you're attracted to more than one gender but not all. Also heard and used it interchangeably with pan.

    I say this as someone who's pan and called themselves bi for most of their life.

    So long as you can communicate the sorta people you wanna fuck I think that's the important part.

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    It seems like, while labels are important for communication, they are just unable to capture all of the nuance when it comes to sexuality and gender.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago*

    After all, that's how all labels work (and perhaps even words in general?). They try to capture meaning, at best failing to do so (endlessly "approaching" it, always a step behind the evolution of language), and at worst ensaring peoples' thoughts and ideas.

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  • [–] 5 points 11 months ago

    "Pansexual" is a term that was developed because some people were overly literal-minded about what they thought "bisexual" meant. A sensible person would know enough not to sweat the corner cases. We're talking about human behavior, not code.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago

    I always describe pansexuality as "bisexuality with more politics and an ugly flag". The basic idea is the same (not being attracted only to one gender) but pansexuality is more explicit about there being more than two genders and liking most or all of them.

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago

    There is debate, but th generally accepted difference is:

    Bisexual people like men, women, non binary, however the gender presentation can enter into the “attraction”. IE, if you like girls, you only like girls who present as X.

    Pan sexual, th gender presentation is not part of it they are attracted to someone. It’s more about >this person< than about generalities.

    Source: am Bi, have many bi and pan friends.

    Bisexuality is NOT trans/non binary exclusionary as a general rule (people are still sometimes assholes).

    Also you can be bi and be in a heteronormative relationship.

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago

    Some people lack the mental capacity to deal with more than two options, and try to force everyone else into one or the other of their faulty categories.

    The proper response to such a question is "Were you dropped on your head as a baby?"

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  • [–] 22 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Did she have a naked guy and a naked woman there? Was she expecting him to have sex with people in front of her? In a public restroom? Is there an official government ID card that proves you are "bi"? He should have asked her to prove she was actually a journalist.

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  • [–] 14 points 11 months ago

    "Bisexual men dont exist, if they do then prove it to me" is what she is saying.

    Funny how bi men dont exist in societies eyes but bi women are all over the place.

    The patriarchy is real.

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  • [–] 10 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Just stepping aside all that's wrong. What kind of test did she have in mind? An interrogation? In a public bathroom during an event?

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago

    Why would you need someone to prive they're bi? And how?

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  • [+] -1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 child)
  • 3 comments in c/gay@lemmy.world view that post
    [–] 14 points 11 months ago

    He was at a Lady Gaga concert and they want MORE proof? Lol

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago*

    “She goes, ‘I just don’t believe you. I just don’t believe it, I don’t believe you’re bisexual. I just, like, I need you to prove it to me.”

    Props to him for keeping his cool, I doubt I’d have been able to muster much more than "eat shit" and "fuck off"

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  • [–] -1 points 11 months ago

    Ha ha ha ha ha omg

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    [–] 17 points 11 months ago

    Absolutely insane behavior. I don’t understand how people are so confused about the concept of bisexuality

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