Double dates aware there is two couples. This sounds more like she wants to bring her friend on to make her feel more comfortable on a first date.

What an unprovoked comment.

Wherever you live, there are also many cultural issues that are equally unrelated to what I said.

This reeks of casual bigotry you should perhaps analyze the thought patterns that lead you to writing this.

right, this is basically saying "i don't trust you not to spike my drink, take me to a second location, and rape me"

and maybe you shouldn't be online dating at all if that's where you start out from

Fox only. No items. Final Destination.

Wingman is the term you're looking for.

But in my date's opinion, he was clam jamming her!

If I remember correctly (it's been over 16 years), my wife suggested separate checks the first time, and I told her I'd pay this time and she could get the next one if she wanted to go out again.

I think I still ended up paying for the next one (or separate checks), but that wasn't a cultural norm thing, I just get uncomfortable with other people paying for me.

My current fiance said she almost didn't want to go on a second date with me because I wanted to go Dutch on our first date. She still tells me to this day that I'm lucky I was cute.

If i invite someone out to dinner I pay. If someone invites me out to dinner I expect them to pay.

expect the man to pay

...they're the same picture. Seriously, given the general dynamics of how straight dating actually ends up working most of the time IRL, these are basically equivalent statements, because the man is also generally expected to be the one to do the asking.

Smart servers just put the check and the card between the people if it’s not obvious who’s paying. I’m a great test case for this because my spouse and I both happen to have first names that could belong to a man or a woman.
It’s pretty much random which one of us pays because we pool our money anyway.

Often they drop the bill in the little book and we stick the card in the end of it and put it back on the end of the table, they come by, run the card and then come back….

you can see the fear in their eyes sometimes, like “oh shit. This could be either one of them… 50/50 chance I annoy the one who’s writing the tip”.

We’ve both worked service industry so we don’t care at all and tip well either way but it’s pretty funny to see the realization sometimes.

Oh and, if it’s two people on a date (not a boring old married couple like us eating dinner) and there’s only one bill… 9/10 it’s the guy paying.

Or a serial killer that was only interested in double kills

Everyone loves mind games :3