I grew up in the 80s and 90s during "the gay plague" and terrifying adverts about it. There were no openly LGBT people around me until I left school at 16. For me it was that the rigid school system kept us in the closet. When I went into the real world I met loads! It was a breath of fresh air.
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I knowingly met one between 0 and 25 years of age, and he was miserable, being the default victim of every prank and worse at and outside of school.
And I'm ashamed to say that I shared very negative opinions of homosexuality and even worse ones about transgender people; essentially a mirror of my times and place.
After 25 I started meeting more open gay people and my first (known) trans-woman and realized, to my shock, "these are just people". I decided from then on to stop being a bigot. I don't think it was a huge coincidence that some feelings I'd been struggling with post-16 or so suddenly made so much more sense and had me realize I was more than incidentally bi.
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A lot. My best friend Gary in high school was a gay guy. He was so funny. The local pot dealer Victoria was a bi sexual, although we mostly considered her a lesbian bc she mostly dated girls.
My gay guy best friends brother Dave is also gay, a friend of mine Stacey, her sister recently started dating women, Victoria's neighbor Jessica was bi and dated both, had another bi sexual female friend Lacey, another guy Bob, our local pot dealers best friend Ryan was a gay guy also.
Victoria would throw all girl parties only and called it 'Pussy Palooza' where no guys were allowed. I use to hang out with Victoria a lot bc she lived down the street from me and we'd always go to parties together.
She obviously knew a lot of gay ppl so I was around gay ppl quite often.
It's crazy bc now, I don't know any gay ppl. I knew a lot in high school though
I don't think I knew any, not until uni when 3 of us shared a flat and one was a lesbian and then meet more on nights out with her and her friends etc.
In later life I know that at least two people from my school came out as gay and one as trans. And a friend at uni came out as trans years after.
My parents were never homophobic or transphobic overtly, my dad would make some comments that echoed popular humour at the time of making fun of stereotypes. My mother worked for an org that dealt with discrimination claims so she always had a better handle on things.
I do think i grew up with a certain level of homophobia and transphobia, not helped by shows like Little Britain... It was just in the culture but I like to think I've shed basically all of it bar some unwelcome somewhat intrusive dissonant thoughts these days.
I knew one kiddo, he was bullied endlessly from elementary until high school. I personally started dating another girl in highschool, and my locker was filled to the brim with come to Jesus Lucifer hellfire messages on paper soon after. This was the 00s.
Growing up in Texas, I knew none until after I came out. But, after I came out, one of my friends I had known pre transition also came out.
I believe I would have transitioned at least 5 years earlier if I had known any trans ppl. I just didn't know enough about the existence and effects of hrt, vaginoplasty, etc.
Even without knowing any lgbt ppl, I was thankfully still a leftist agnostic ally and not a homophobe.
Lord growing up LGBT+ in Texas must have been tricky. It's transphobic enough now I dread to think what it was like then
I knew a bunch of gay people in the eighties but even now some of them haven't come out. One of my lesbian friends is married to a guy. She's definitely not bi.
When I was in primary school I didn't know any at all, when I was in secondary school I met 3 LGBT+ people in addition to myself.
Before 16? Maybe one or two, excluding myself, but we pretty much kept it hidden. Turns out there were way more of us and we all came out after we left secondary school and the awful environment the other kids created for us
None. I was an adult before I ever knew a gay person. By that point I'd probably met hundreds but you guys are good at hiding it and I am not the most observant person.
One. I knew one kid that was gay.
Mostly I didn't care if someone was LGBT+. Mostly still don't, unless someone is being a bigot towards them. Then I get to let loose by being a complete dick to the bigot without feeling bad. Otherwise I can't really give a shit what's in your pants or who you're fucking. Are you an ok person to be around? Good enough for me.
none until high school, and only then it was some fellow classmates at a time when LGBT+ rights had made some advances and when I was a gay rights activist - otherwise I knew maybe one closeted lesbian or bisexual family member, and otherwise gay people were just associated with pedophilia and rape growing up, the idea at the time was that gay folks are sexually perverse and wrong. Growing up, Michael Jackson was like the paradigm "gay" person. I grew up in the Southern U.S., though.
Knew a couple, one of my best friends in school was open about being gay. I felt sorry for him though because he'd constantly make self depreciating jokes about himself being gay, and you could tell he'd been bullied a lot
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