You didn't ghost her first of all. Inadvertently or otherwise.

This is a pretty easy way to gauge someone's interest by just seeing if they ever message you first.

Really you should just take this as a sign to move on and work on relationships that are two sided. Ones where the other person texts first.

Sorry its happened to you, but its always better now then after you've invested a serious amount of time and emotional energy into a relationship.

Most relationships I've had in my life, both platonic and sexual, just sort of 'clicked.' I never found myself wondering about what was going on, most effort was recipricated without much thought. I would just move on. She directly communicated she needed space, she's not reaching out - I think the writing is on the wall.

No. It's ghosting if they reach out to you, and you ignore them.

This is not ghosting. Can't speak on the rest. People are complicated, and their life seems more complicated than most from what little you said.

As a parent with a demanding job, I will get so distracted with life that I forget to reach back out. I even do it with family from time to time. I feel so bad that my brother reaches out to me more than I do to him.

I would just send a short message saying something supportive and non-judgmental. Like, "sorry I haven't reach out lately, things got busy (with my job/schoool/or whatever you do), just wanted to check and see how you are doing." Or something along those lines, to put the onus on you and easy her feelings if she does feel bad about not messaging you first. I would not immediately ask her to meet again. Just see if you can get the conversation going.

It's hard to stomach but you knew the truth before asking Lemmy. Sorry, friend, but it's probably better this way, honestly. And don't take it personally! It's not like this is someone who knew you inside and out and decided to avoid you. 🙏

Either they don't like you or they do but they're just too busy to put in the effort. Either way you're better off spending time with others.

or she wasn't interested in the first place,

Well:

I even asked if we could go out on our own to have a coffee together, and she accepted, but asked for some time to sort things out on her life

So all I am hearing/seeing there is a no. You asked her out and turned you down and you have not heard from her in a month

It is pretty clear to me she isn’t interested.

Did you ghost her? Does that mattter?

ahem............................

it's fine if you need to ghost people