coming to the horrific understanding, much earlier in life, that there are women so passive they would never be capable of speaking of their own accord (unless teed up just right)

(she's not like that)

but feminism (in a very broad sense) has this problem that

• many, even most women should be treated as equals by men
• men need to understand that they have to look out for women conditioned to or inherently unable to advocate on their own behalf

so now these people who have feelings but can't speak about them use the AI as a prosthesis, and lemmies heap abuse on them for accessing a part of the human experience which comes naturally to we who are expressive. It's ugly.