Singlet here. It sucks that you don't feel safe being open about who your headmates are. I hope you have external friends that you all feel comfortable around. :( A couple of my best friends are systems, and I can't imagine any of them being anymany other than who they are. You shouldn't have to pretend. edit: linguistic oops

<3. We are sorry. Hopefully eventually this will be more accepted/understood in society.

100%, things for us at work are very much a combined effort and it really sucks to have to hide all of that out of fear of whatever kind of retaliation. We at least take solace in the times and places we are allowed to be open about us and I hope that y'all have similar spaces where you can properly exist. Work has consistently been just a place to fake it, no matter where we're working, but that doesn't take anything away from the system as a whole. - Phoebe (it/its)

We don't really experience this, though we're very switchy and had accepted that there is no one in the body with our legal name.

That being said, we do hope you and your headmates are able to get into better working conditions. ❤️

We're openly plural to everyone in our life that we trust.

Work doesn't get to know. Capitalism is an abusive institution that is not owed honesty. We feel no guilt whatsoever about masking at work.

We don't pretend anymore. Our legal name even represents our System. Masking sucks