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I lost my temper yesterday and I have to deal with the consequences today.. (lemmynsfw.com)
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I was doing some building work in my house yesterday and I slowly lost my temper over about 40 minutes but FOR SOME REASON I didn't stop just stop working for the day. Now I have to remove and replace an entire section of my wall because of the damage I caused. It had all just been painted too 😭

I've had a lot of meltdowns and burnouts recently, but I haven't lost my temper like this in years. For me, that's the real symptom of how badly I need a break. I'm not too upset with myself because I know that I would never normally act like this, but I'm still very ashamed. I needed to get this off my chest but I don't want to talk about it to anyone I know.

The moral of the story is that sometimes cheap supplies are shit, and plasterboard walls also suck. I've lived in a stone house most of my life, so it was really surprising to see how easily I could break a wall

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[–] 11 points 1 year ago (1 child)

Oh boy yeah. You may want to take a couch day for yourself.

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    • [–] 8 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Take a few days off if you can. This happens to all of us.

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    • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Reminds me of the time my dad was working on a ladder, and the guy plastering a wall below him lost his temper and started pounding the wall full of dents with his plaster knife. Then, after getting it out of his system, he immediately proceeded to fix the damage he’d just caused.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 1 year ago

    Literally as soon as I was finished with my tantrum, I started thinking of ways to fix it.

    I think it's a really good example of a principal that a lot of us can struggle with - sometimes you just have to feel your emotions and let them rule you for a minute in order to deal with them. (although I wouldn't usually recommend this for anger of course.) But we often try to bottle up our sadness or frustration or even our joy, instead of feeling them and letting them pass by us. It's much quicker and easier to process some emotions by letting them happen.

    In this specific situation, I should have a) stopped sooner; or b) found something to destroy that didn't matter. But, I still did feel a lot better for having it out of my system even if it was silly to damage my work

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