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[–] 41 points 4 months ago (7 children)

Gosh, it’s so difficult sometimes, isn’t it?

I was stuck in a relationship for 15 years. 15!! The amount of cope and sunk cost fallacy I engaged with is astonishing looking back at it.

Once I could finally break free, it was hard to believe how GOOD life was!

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is right now.

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  • [–] 17 points 4 months ago (5 children)

    Fifteen for me, too. I really need to know that life will be good because right now it's bad and i don't want to keep going

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  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

    It really does get better. I promise you that it does get better. Sometimes it has to get darker before it gets lighter, but the sun always rises. You matter and you deserve love.

    Even though I knew deep down I had to leave my ex-husband, it felt very surreal and difficult to stay on that path until I was finally out for good. But holy shit life felt so much easier when I did. I was super poor, a single mom, and living out of my friend's spare bedroom. It was still so much better.

    You are loved. You matter.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago

    I did 11 in an abusive marriage. It really does get so much better. 🫂

    There's a lot of work to do with unpacking and healing, and the path will have rough spots, but give yourself space and grace and have patience with yourself.

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  • [–] 20 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    This makes those shitty boyfriends look way cooler than they deserve 😅

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  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago

    Same, but with my terrible, transphobic ex-wife. Two years clean as of last May and I've never been happier 😎

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  • [–] 13 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Did you happen to check the rules before posting?

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago

    Single for a couple years now. I don’t think I ever had a good partner so I guess I don’t know if I’m missing out.

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