cross-posted from: https://reddthat.com/post/46807163
Since this post posted in /c/womensstuff, a community that prohibits male participation, showed up on the front page of All I'm cross-posting it to a space where men can chime in and answer/discuss it freely.
I have some disagreement about this. Since our thoughts are a mixture of our conscious decisions and cultural context there are times when offensive thoughts bubble up. What make you a good person is not acting on this offensive thoughts, noting them and consciously attempting to change them. So you are correct to change your thinking but its a process and no one is perfect. As you change them they lessen but we all have times when our thoughts aren't as enlightened as we want to be.