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[–] -1 points 20 hours ago
  1. I’ve experienced both types of childhoods, I can definitively say I would’ve preferred having actual loving parents who knew how to use trauma to teach me about how to handle trauma in all facets of our lives. It’s one of many social epidemics currently rotting our society away.

  2. If you read my original starement fully, you would’ve seen that I wrote in loving parents up there… and specified that the statement DOESNT apply to everyone because I know better than most about being abused by parents from self experience lmao.

Human existence is nothing but endless trauma, especially historically. It’s actually spectacular that we’re even having this conversation rather than just lugging around rocks as we die from the ice age that would otherwise be going on rn.

Parents are evolutionarily meant to prepare you for the world, and we primarily did that in ineffective, animalistic ways like beating them. Should they do that? I’d say no, although I think it’s ultimately dependent on the child’s act and the parent’s emotional intelligence more than anything regarding the loosely bound societal construct that is “morality”. Like, if most people’s child intentionally cut their other child with a knife, I wouldn’t really be that taken aback to hear they slapped them for it - even if it wasn’t the correct thing to do.

The point of what I was getting across was that in normal, semi-HEALTHY parental relationships: trauma is the driver of learning for the broad human population. This trauma does not typically cause CPTSD. Hell, it might not even cause PTSD.

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