I understand sometimes people lie to avoid hurting someone, but a lot of the time it seems unnecessary. When something really important happens and honesty matters, people still choose to lie instead of just telling the truth.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] 2 points 18 hours ago (1 child)

I said to a psychologist one time "it seems to me people tacitly accept other peoples lies because it validates their own", although that doesnt explain why people lie in the first place. The psych agreed.

Back in the day, I had an aquaintance with a guy who was a thief. One day I asked him why and he declared "because Im smarter than they are!". He was refering to the store clerks. It wasnt even about sticking to the man, it was a simple real-time mania of ego, outwit the clerks. High narcissism. He ended up in the business of custom theivery but I dont think that worked out very well.

  • source
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 3 points 17 hours ago

    Outwitting is such a wicked motivation. I had that with drinking and I was fucking good at it. I made it a challenge to consume as much alcohol as I can without people noticing and they really didn't notice. I was drunk at AA meetings more often than not. I took driving lessons drunk, was drunk in university and at jobs, around friends and family - people never noticed, even when I had a 3.5 promille blood alcohol level. Guess you can guess that all of this didn't end well and I had to stop drinking eventually. Still, only people I told know how bad it had actually been. I hadn't been sober in years.

  • source
  • parent