CW: Sexual mentions (just in case)Hi. I will admit, we're pretty young. So, I saw the post about some guy having trouble with his girlfriend, and I thought of our relationship.

My girlfriend always wants to text me, like every 2 seconds, and gets worried if I don't respond within a minute.

She's actually very sweet and caring, but she too has trouble paying attention to what I have to say because of her ADHD.

I'm pretty much asexual, I believe, or on the ace spectrum. I probably fit a microlabel (aegosexual, aceflux, etc.) of that, but IDK. I also have trouble saying no, but I'm trying to learn to assert myself.

The thing I feel bad about is that because I have trouble saying no, she probably thinks I'm just a very sexual person. I do enjoy experimenting with sex, but thanks to my low sex drive, not that much.

And it's more like I just get feelings down there than actually wanting sex.

As much as I love her, though, she's also pretty... emotional? And because of that, she often blames herself or gets really upset during the times I did say no.

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[–] 7 points 4 days ago* (1 child)

To be fair I have been doing this. Please do not hide it. Communication is better. I couldn't say no, because I was thinking about the impact of my words if I said so. My previous partner had a really low self esteem. And me refusing was often taken as I don't love her anymore, I don't desire her.. But this is not healthy and will damage you.

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  • [–] [S] 5 points 4 days ago

    Thank you. My therapist has also stated I am in an unhealthy relationship, but I can’t leave her for numerous reasons even though my therapist says I can feel bad, but it doesn’t mean I’m bad

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