I think it's a vicious cycle there more than one creating the whole situation. The expectation that men will be sexually aggressive encourages women to be sexually defensive which includes masking desire which leaves much more room for men to be encouraged to be sexually aggressive.

The ultimate solution is to work on both at the same time. We need to continue the push for sexual liberation, which includes encouraging women to be open about desires and to make moves, but is ultimately the process of getting men/women to move from an aggressive/defensive approach to sex to both having an egalitarian and cooperative approach

At least that's my outsiders perspective, I'm a lesbian who never dated men, so grain of salt and whatnot

It makes women adversaries instead of partners. It emboldens predators and removes people’s agency. Things like rape make certain people feel more powerful.

The problem is a lack of access to basic resources, resulting in lower education and thus more tribalism. A few of us are amplifying that because we’ve let that be profitable.

That’s what needs fixing.

I remember being confused about why "slut" was an insult as a teen. My line of thought, as someone that wanted to have sex with women, was that women that liked sex sounded more fun.

I understand now it's insecurity. Guys feeling threatened by a woman having experience with other guys because they know they don't put much effort in to even understanding how to pleasure a woman but want to assume they are amazing in bed anyways. Insecurity on its own is ok, but the way they handle it is fucking pathetic.

It's the same mindset that gives them an ego boost from cheating but then getting paranoid or even outraged when they realize their partner could be doing the same to them. It's hilarious sometimes watching cheaters react to actually getting cheated on, too.

But I digress.