You can't go back in time and undo meeting your then-partner, because then your kids wouldn't exist

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[–] 9 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

You just live with it. I hate that my kid’s father is who he is, but I can’t change it now. I made the best decision I could with the information I had at the time.

I wouldn’t have left my kid’s dad if I hadn’t become a mother. It took seeing how he treated me through my child’s eyes to realize I couldn’t model a relationship like that without seriously damaging my kid.

So you just live with it shrug

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    It's amazing how we grow by considering ourselves through the lens of others. I wish I could have supported my mother more during her divorce with my dad

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Just being her kid was enough support, I promise :)

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  • [–] [S] 5 points 2 weeks ago

    Don't know. We were very firmly on "team dad" at the time, as he seemed the least emotional about it. Only later we realised what a lying sociopath he actually was....

    But we're all good now, and she got us back, and we're all the better for it

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