The sad reality is, that's just what it's like dating cis men as a trans woman, at least when you're meeting them through apps or the like. The guys who hook up with trans women in those contexts are either chasers, or guys that are just curious. Neither of them is interested in anything long term though.
The guys who don't care whether you're trans or cis, who don't make it at the core of why they are interested in dating you, won't find you on dating apps.
Dating apps are awful for everyone, but as bad as they are, they are far far worse for trans folk.