Not going to offer many details on the where or how, as I don't intend to dox myself, but suffice it to say that I will continue touching butts for an extended period. I don't like feeling aroused by the act. These people placed trust in me. Trust that I mean them no harm and that I am safe to be around. I can certainly be both while aroused, but I'd rather not have to deal with this.

I'd prefer not to dissociate through work, but I can't find another way to contextualize my experiences in a way that doesn't leave me frustrated until I get home.

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[–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

As a pro your career depends on your ability to be completely dispassionate in the non-work aspects of butt, you must classify them as “work butts” where the work butts may hold work-related and necessary information and be required, but they are fundamentally different from the fun “non-work” butts. You just have to turn those thoughts off. I’ve been disassociating in the human services field for a really long time so I know it is easier said than done, but your professional and personal life really do depend your ability to compartmentalize these things. Maybe think of them as slabs of meat.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    I'm a massage therapist, and have used this approach for decades. People's bodies are anatomy, and the person residing in that body needs to be cared for with respect and compassion. I learn their needs and concerns, and address their anatomy to best support their needs. I'm being paid to compartmentalize my mind as a professional, and separate out my personal thoughts or judgements.

    When I'm not working, people in my personal life are no longer anatomy. They're people I have relationships with, with different dynamics allowing for different responses.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 3 weeks ago

    I'm deeply envious of those, like yourself, who have successfully reframed their clients. How long did it take to do so? I recognize that people are vastly different, but an order of magnitude or two would help frame when it becomes a real issue.

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