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[–] [S] 11 points 4 weeks ago (1 child)

I know I have watched videos about this also, that people say they are not approached or feel like they can't approach others. My thing is body language and eye contact, if I'm out walking around making eye contact and we exchange a hello and see if more occurs fine. But if someone is totally closed off looking away.... take the hint. And like dear lord don't sit down without being invited to ! Chat a minute and ask first.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago

    Sadly, some of us are unable to 'take a hint' as it doesn't seem like a hint. Not everybody is wired to pick up on small contextual cues and may only notice the big ones; being in a public shopping mall (historically a pretty social location) while not shopping, implies to my brain a desire to be around people, even if you aren't there for the buildings intended purpose. It's definitely fine that your intention wasn't to be social, I don't desire to be social and try to avoid places with people like the plague.

    I don't think he did anything wrong either though; the few mall walkers I've known almost consider it a sport so I get why he would say those exact words (not seeing you during their usual meetup time, he was likely inviting you to walk with their group).

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