I understand, and I agree.
I guess I'm just lamenting the fact that fascists have gotten so goddamn good at using our empathy as a weapon against us. Shit is so broken when the only options are: to do the very thing that they want, and in doing so, possibly actively hurting a marginalized person or group, or to just ignore them entirely even if they're actually acting in good faith (and maybe need someone to talk to).
Fucking sucks.