If you’re using the wired one, pick up a “Router Power Control” from the internet or a hardware store. It’s got a dial and gives you much, MUCH more control over the device’s power, from super light but deeeep rumbles to the standard HYPEREARTHQUAKE it normally does.

I have this setup and it’s great, but ended up with a wireless model anyway. The wireless one is only marginally less strong on high, but has a silicone head and is chill enough on the lower settings to get going.

I’d also recommend a We-Vibe Touch, as it’s small ultra quiet and incredibly powerful for the size. It’s my favorite smaller vibe.