I'm generally likable, but I don't have much charisma -so people listen to me to a certain extent because of that. Past a point, their eyes glaze over
I think there's a reason you have such a different experience. I've found you quite negative in our very short interaction.
I just think you come across as patronizing in general TBH. I mean this genuinely, you lack the puppy dog energy of OP, and you shouldn't expect to get the same results