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[–] 54 points 1 month ago (5 children)

This is a rough one because there's so much entitlement that's buried deep in cultural assumptions that most people don't even consider to be worth examining.

Here's my shot at it: the unexamined expectation that women will absorb inconvenience—e.g. emotional, cognitive, and domestic labor—so men don’t have to.

It means women have to be ready to decode, manage, and soothe male emotions. It means women have to remember anniversaries, birthdays, plan celebrations and such. It means women work full time jobs and do the cleaning and laundry and such.

A close second would be the entitlement to be heard. Women will listen politely and attentively before being allowed to speak, and if at any point a man speaks, women are to shut up and listen again. You can see this dynamic in this very group with the number of people who can't read some perfectly clear text:

Women only...

This is me predicting we're going to get a lot of that in this thread.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    The entitlement to be heard is so unbelievably frustrating. Try tell them that though and they'll never shut up defending themselves and telling you how you're wrong because .... blah blah blah

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  • [–] 24 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    The proof of which can be found in the mod log for this very group, yes.

    Incredibly frustrating.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

    I just scrolled through the mod log (for a reminder of why rule #1 exists) and I stumbled over this:

    Reason: Man who requested banning.

    A man thought he was entitled to women doing the work to ban him from the community because he lacked the self-control to not comment in it.

    Think about that for a second.

    Women have to be this man's self-control because he can't do either of:

    • exercising self-control and not posting
    • doing the simple task of blocking the group himself

    THIS is male entitlement in a nutshell.

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