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What do you mean we're not all kids here? This is awesome (lemmy.world)
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[–] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It should have more depth, but that isn't always the case, haha. We all do it to some extent. There some topics I flat out refuse to discuss with 99% of people because most people can't discuss these things without opting to black and white thinking. Then there are topics I refuse to discuss with people because I fall into black and white thinking and I don't want to put that out into the world. We should definitely hold ourselves to a higher standard, but most of us are emotional beings about something and whatever that something is, will result in very silly behavior if we get in our feelings too much. The number of instances and users I have decided to block for this very reason is probably higher than on any other platform I have ever been on. Sometimes it's because I find them to be the childish ones and other times it's because I feel like I would become the childish one if I engage further.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Lots of good pithy reflections there! Black and white thinking is my absolute top gripe about social media as well, and the reason most discussions just aren't worth participating in. Every issue is filtered into a simplistic comic book or meme frame where there are exactly two diametrically opposed sides, with cackling villains vs noble heroes or underdog victims. Stepping out of the frame to acknowledge real-world subtleties makes you an evil apologist.

    I think a disproportionate amount of content comes from people who find social media so much more comfortable than communicating in person, they use it like lab rats wired up to an orgasm button. They're always partly engaging with the subject at hand and partly working out their own issues. Sifting through it all to stay on point (or even find one) can be a challenge.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago*

    Black and white thinking is my absolute top gripe about social media as well, and the reason most discussions just aren't worth participating in.

    Mm, yeah. This is especially true when communicating between different ideologies, but even within them it can be hard to have a nuanced conversation—like the kind where you might not understand or agree with some point that many in your group don't appear to question.

    Like when the TERF thing first started becoming a big deal, I was lucky to have actually feminist friends, trans and otherwise, to walk me through it and suggest some reading. (Not to go all into it, but at the time I was having trouble discriminating which feminist women I should listen to.)

    Anyway, that's one of those non black and white convos, which are so hard to have with anyone but actual friends, face-to-face.

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