Please don't tell me to get off of it, I have old Livejournal friends to keep in touch with and that's why I'm there.
It is. And young women are kind of forced into it as part of the conventional ideas of marriage and weddings. I didn't change my last name, because I married an asshole who wanted me to feel bad for wanting "normal" things like that, which is another story, and in the end I'm very glad I didn't, but my narcissistic mother was OBSESSED with me changing my name.