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[–] 1 point 2 months ago (4 children)

Getting downvoted for explaining lol.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I can't see downvotes anyways 🤷‍♀️

    Honestly a lot of times people doing "well actually...." aren't acting in good faith, so I don't blame people for downvoting.

    I just find interesting because some of my parents neighbors are like that, but my parents are lesbians, but one of them is quite eggy (not just butch) and they socially treat her as a guy, so the husbands will talk directly with one of my moms but not the other. So I find it a little fascinating how different flavors of sexism try to manage situations outside the norms that were assumed in their making (surprisingly they seem to have no problem with her being a lesbian). Otoh, they've had plenty of contractors coming to give bids who just clearly don't respect either of them because they are women.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah. There’s a big difference between

    I know for some…

    and “it’s my strong recommendation that…” People are alarmingly bad at reading.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago

    A lot of people don't want to understand anything bad. They want to condemn the people who think bad, and they feel like any kind of understanding results in less condemnation, which is bad!!

    I see it as very analogous to the war on drugs. A lot of people think that "drugs are bad mkay" and so any sensible policy like drug harm reduction is bad because it sends the wrong message - even if it doesn't really increase use of drugs much. Even if understanding (large numbers of) sexists doesn't result in more sexism, it seems to send the wrong message.

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