Yeah... it's perhaps down to a difference in experience giving us very different perspectives on the same thing.

I see the "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" line repeated all the time, and it's become extremely popular with the Man-O-Sphere chuds like Andrew Tate. While it was just a somewhat tired meme, it's rapidly turned into a genuine guiding philosophy that people live by, and it plays very easily into the conservative "an indication of sexuality is an invitation to sexualize" mindset. It's become the same thing as 4chan's "Tits or GTFO", but phrased in a less expressly offensive way.

There's been plenty of discussion about the lack of 3rd spaces and it's impact on society, so I do understand that people feel motivated to seize the opportunity for interactions when those rare chances present themselves, but it's an impulse that's really making it exhausting to exist in those few shared spaces we do still have.