If I have to listen to some guy talk about how we should play nice with Nazis because they can easily imagine themselves as a Nazi, I'm gonna lose it. We do not have an infinite amount of time, these people signed up to be the enemies of literally all life on this planet, I could not care less about whether or not they are "actually" bad people for doing this, I need them to stop. For people like you, the biggest concern is not being in danger, but putting someone like you in danger. Could you understand why someone might care less about the danger for you than for people who are actually victimized by these literal genocide footsoldiers?
I cannot tolerate these people, not because I was not socialized around them, but because I was. I know how they think, I understand that there may be ignorance, they're doing bad things anyway and it's too fucking bad, but their victims matter more than they do exactly because they have signed up to do these things. It was "heartbreaking," to learn that the fucking Nazis aren't cool? Imagine what it would feel like to have those Nazis bomb your entire fucking world away and then come home to laugh and smile and talk about how sad they are about doing something "dishonourable."
You're not being empathetic to people or advocating for a more compassionate understanding of them, you're arguing that we should be doing that specifically for groups of people whose material security is directly tied to keeping the genocide machine running. Why, of all places, would that be where we consider empathizing with the actions of others? I can't imagine myself as a Nazi, because I've always known they'd kill me if given the chance. FFS.