I definitely feel very happy feelings without sadness, but not without tears. I’ll cry at how adorable my cat is or how much I love someone, and I’ve cried at every wedding I’ve ever been to as an adult.

I guess I don’t ever cry after solving a puzzle, even though that makes me happy. I have cried at getting a job or a good student review though, and those seem like they’re in the same family.

I would say of the examples listed, the only one that’s never made me cry is a really good shower 😂

To be clear, I generally try to make it as non-obvious as possible when I do, I’m not just crying all over the place. I also don’t make it other people’s problem. I’ve received nothing but support here and that probably reads a bit defensive, but I would prefer to be “built further from water,” to paraphrase a German saying.

And matching/mismatching does probably play a bigger role in my X-phoria than anything else, which is weird, because I’m personally most attracted to GNC people.

And yes, fuck transphobes not in the fun way.