Got it, thanks, that makes sense.
I think it was good that you mentioned it. That's one word I grew up using casually (90s kid) and I felt for a long time like "what the fuck is the big deal?" but I also have words I don't like being called (like Jap) and it doesn't feel good when people tell me it's not a slur.
A while back, I came to the conclusion that f someone is offended by it, the kind thing (maybe this isn't the right thing or logical thing) to do is not use it, or at least think about why it might hurt these specific people.