I think there is value in knowing when to walk away from something that clearly isn't working.
I wasted a lot of time and energy in my teens and twenties trying to find or form that group. That's when, in retrospect, I was most susceptible to manosphere content. It was much less interactive back then, which I think is one of the reasons I was able to get myself out. It didn't yet have the discord servers, and what communities they formed had not yet coalesced into single-subject forums. I imagine it's a lot harder to get out of that.