the fuck you mean lack of will? my mothers lack of will? My mom didnt raise me. I knew her, and after 18 saught out her support, but I was orphaned at 4 and turned 18 as a ward of the state
Never found a crowd for support. Never liked putting that shit on my friends anyway. Two my siblings and I grew up close, and even tried, subconsciously, to parent eachother, or support one another in the way a parent would. Its not the same.
The trauma of having your parents not give a fuck about you, is the worst of it. No friend can fix that. Best parents love thier kids right.
Pay it forward is a good value. I try n do the same, first and foremost, by loving my kid properly.