for you, being the operative thing here.

other people have different definitions and behaviors. which might be at odds with yours.

in the USA it's basically a management strategy to optimize productivity, btw. And that's how most folks in common usage, see it. It's the ability to manipulate people to get shit you want out of them. So in that way, lying, deceiving, or other such behaviors, are very emotionally intelligent, because they an efficient means to the ends. making your workers feel nice makes them produce more.