You can joke about everything, but not with everyone.
She was venting to her boyfriend. It was never meant to become public, or shared in a group, or anyone but her boyfriend, who, lets be bold and assume, knows her enough to assess if she's really joking or she's having a nervous breakdown.
So yes: the one and only issue here, is a Snapchat conversation is never a 1:1 conversation, nor are Instagram, Whatsapp, FB Messenger and what not discussions.
Putting the blame on her is normalizing global surveillance.