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What is something you wish cis people knew? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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What is something you learned or experienced from being trans that you wish you knew pre-transition, or that you wish cis people knew?

I'll go first: the temperature differences when going from testosterone-dominance to estrogen-dominance is not just real but significant, my body just puts out less heat and I feel colder much easier now even when otherwise maintaining a high metabolism, eating in excess, etc.

It may have just been my trans denial before, but I really wanted to believe that the difference was not that great and I was wrong.

What's something you wish people knew?

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[–] 8 points 1 year ago (1 child)

Yeah, idk about you but I still have the underlying anxiety that I'm going to finish transitioning and not be happy. But I also have anxiety about pretty much every decision I make.

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 1 year ago

    I can get that way too, but what I've done to cope is to recognize that my situation is vastly improved, and that's good enough - transition doesn't have to make me happy all the time, it's enough that it makes me happy so much of the time. The same strategy was really important when deciding to get a vaginoplasty, and when choosing my name - because I had a lot of perfectionism and anxiety around both, and I had to realize that it's about being practical and not about finding perfection.

    Even just getting estrogen in me really changed my mental health for the better, even if that's all I ever did, it would have been worth it.

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