I've stopped defending my spouse when people get pissy about us parking in the handicap spot but only because instead of justifying why we need to use it, I just tell them to fuck off and call the cops if they think we're breaking the law. So far nobody has.
Although NOW they need a wheelchair most days so it's no longer "invisible" while we're getting out of the car.
Legitimately if you feel a non-disabled person might be using something, shut your fucking mouth because unless you KNOW they aren't disabled in some way, you're just mocking someone for having an issue that isn't immediately visible, and you're a cunt.