I'm not talking about abusers. I'm talking about people who re-frame their parents as abusers despite them objectively being good parents, because they are unhappy with themselves and need to blame someone. No matter how absurd it is when they talk about it.

Like, one woman I dated thought her parents were AWFUL because they ONLY gave her $50,000 as a graduation gift. And went on like this for an entire weekend, her parents are the ROOT OF ALL HER STRUGGLES because they don't SUPPORT HER BY BUYING HER A PORSCHE SHE WANTS. And in her dumbass world, 50K wasn't good enough, even though that easily covered a Porsche Macan.

Least to say, I never saw her again after that weekend. And she thought I was a horrible evil person who 'used her for sex'. No, I simple wanted to get away from how horrible you were as a human being, thanks. Gets $50,000 gift, and has not a dime of gratitude about it and is enraged it's NOT ENOUGH. I wouldn't be surprised in she had been the one abusing her parents. Abusive children exist, but we don't talk about that because it violates the concept that children are 'innocent'. BTW this was a 35 year old woman with a career, not a 20 year old.