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Is there a safe way to say you don't like something? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 3 months ago by to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I was talking with someone today and realized I did something I do quite often that might be a trait that gets me into trouble: I boldly state my preference for (or against) something.

In this case, it was being tired of classic rock from a lifetime of overexposure. I think I offended the person, but saved it by clarifying that I'm mostly tired that there is a play list of seemingly 100-songs that have been in continual rotation for 50 years.

Anyway, it occurs to me that I'm just stating my preferences and I personally thing that's fine and normal, but that people get personally offended if you don't like what they like; which makes no sense to me. It's like if you don't like bland food, I'm not going to get offended because I can't handle anything hotter than black pepper. It doesn't ultimately mean anything significant.

Thoughts, ideas, suggestions?

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[–] 2 points 3 months ago

It may help if you try to sound like you almost liked it, but don't. "It's not really my thing," "Tried it, but I just don't love it," and "it just never really worked for me" are examples. Explaining that you feel like you have given it all the chance it needs, and ultimately decided it's not for you. You're not trying to emphasize negativity, just a lack of positivity, if that makes sense. This helps avoid implied criticism of someone else's tastes while conveying your preference.

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