Feelings I had for my classmate were obviously one-sided (pretty sure of it), so I made a reasonable decision to never confess to not make things awkward. In a few years since we graduated I finally moved on, although I never loved anyone this much since.

Yet all this time I had a desire to tell her about them. I would definitely want to know if someone loved me this much ever. Would she? I don't know. I don't even know if she is in a relationship right now or not.

I would really want to cite some scientific study that "Over 80% of girls have their self-confidence lifted after being told they were secretly admired (p<0.05)", but can't find one.

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[–] [S] -1 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I'm horrified and appalled by how the community perceived my intentions; at large, judging by the number of votes on comments in the conversation below, placing no doubt in them being nothing more than sick and twisted desire for attention.

The formula as I see it in my head is quite simple. I would want to hear this said to me; it would make my day; wouldn't they want to hear it just as much? I waited for long enough that no special feelings are currently present.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago (2 children)

    I'm horrified and appalled by how the community perceived my intentions; at large, judging by the number of votes on comments in the conversation below, placing no doubt in them being nothing more than sick and twisted desire for attention

    You might want to think about that a bit.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    You all will NOT gaslight me into thinking I'm insane. You. Will. Not.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    You all will NOT gaslight me into thinking I'm insane. You. Will. Not.

    Nobody is gaslighting you. You asked for advice. The fact that you don't like the advice you're getting probably means you need to hear it all the more.

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