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i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
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[–] 12 points 4 months ago (12 children)

I'm not comfortable with people hanging out naked around me and no amount of your "feeling sorry" is going to change that

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (6 children)

    You likely wouldn't be hanging out in groups where casual nudity is a thing then huh?

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (5 children)

    No, I don't, which is why I would be uncomfortable if I was hanging out at my friend's house and his "fling" was just chilling out naked. Especially if she was enjoying making me and anyone else around uncomfortable

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    Y'all have dick for media literacy. Nowhere does the meme imply that op was getting a kick out of making everyone uncomfortable. If anything the meme implies she was oblivious to it, not intentionally doing it to get a reaction. Y'all are so out of touch you genuinely can't imagine someone just preferring to be naked in a safe comfortable space. No wonder none of y'all are having kids, you're afraid of fuckin nudity.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (3 children)

    Jesus context is fuckin difficult with this lot. Lemme break this down for you here; if op is naked around fling and fling's friend, fling is the kind of person who clearly doesn't have issues with casual nudity, therefore would not likely freely have friends over if those friends weren't ok with casual nudity. Like, it's fuckin implicit by virtue of having tits out. Apparently none of you have ever seen public nudity. It's not a big deal. Nobody cares except for perverts and porn-brained internet shut ins.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    What does OP's nudity have anything to do with fling's or fling's friend's beliefs?

    it's fuckin implicit by virtue of having tits out

    So, just to be clear, by your logic, if I was at a hangout with, say, my friends and their girlfriends (all of whom I can tell you would be uncomfortable with nudity), and I just whipped my dick out and started chilling naked, it would actually be chill because

    it's fuckin implicit by virtue of having tits dick out

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (1 child)

    If your dick is already out when your friends come into your dick out space then yeah, that's on your friends. Y'all can't understand context if it whipped its dick out in public. Fling has company over while op has tits out, ergo fling and op are comfortable with casual nudity and aren't concerned about friends seeing tits. If you're uncomfortable about casual nudity in someone else's space, that's on you. This isn't complicated but all y'all motherfuckers keep imagining situations where ya get to be the victims of gasp witnessing casual nudity.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    You keep going on about context. What context? OP doesn't give any context, only that she is naked around other people who are obviously uncomfortable about it and wondering what they thinking. How is this supposed to be interpreted in any way other than OP putting other people in a situation they do not want to be in?

    We are not imagining scenarios where we get to be victims, we are trying to explain to you that we would not be comfortable with the situation described, and despite you saying it's not complicated, you attack us and call us prudes. Also, the person being referenced in OP's meme is a victim, no imagining about it

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Especially since I'd wager most of it IS sexual and their fantasy. No one just casually decides it doesn't bother them and then actively goes out of social norms unless they really want to prove a point or it's their kink... ergo, they very much do care.

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  • [–] -4 points 4 months ago

    And the wrong glance or stray word and they might fly off the handle accusing you of sexual violence when it was their choice to be casually naked into front of you in the first place.

    Looking isn't violence, of course, but that won't stop them from accusing you of victim blaming with a sarcastic "wHaT wAs ShE wEaRiNg?"

    I'd be uncomfortable in the same way I'd be uncomfortable if someone were to force me to play russian roulette.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Buddy like half the world bathes together normally. Imagine being so porn brained that you can't conceive of casual non sexual nudity.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Yet these people aren't in 'that' half of the world nor are they coming from it, are they?

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  • [–] -1 points 4 months ago

    That doesn't really respond to my point. If casual nudity is uncomfortable to you, that's a you problem. If you think nudity is inappropriate by virtue of being nudity you're a fuckin prude and can quite frankly shove off.

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