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Self-awareness (lemmy.today)
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[–] 85 points 4 months ago (9 children)

The problem isn't YOUR self-awareness, it's everyone else's LACK of it.

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  • [–] 78 points 4 months ago (5 children)

    This might be part of the issue but in reality high self awareness can also lead to excessive overthinking, ruminating, self criticism and hypervigilance. This is mechanics at play that are the root of some people suffering depression. By no means does this mean to become less selfaware rather to become aware of this pattern and recognise these thoughts: become more aware of ones self awareness.

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  • [–] 35 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Not just self awareness but also awareness about state of world. Existential dread is not anxiety.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago

    Existential dread is not anxiety.

    Uhh… yes it is? I mean, what emotion would you otherwise attribute to it? Because dread as an emotion—also literally in the term “existential dread”—can be directly described as an anticipatory anxiety about future events.

    The two are extremely closely related if not referring to the exact same feeling. They really only differ in context, and even then only semantically.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago

    It's still paranoia even if someone is really out to get you. A little paranoia is healthy IMO, as long as it isn't causing a significant disruption to your life for no good reason.

    Same thing with anxiety. Being aware of how things can go wrong is an important survival skill IMO but not if it paralyzes you or takes over all your thoughts for no good reason. That last bit is important. Spending all your effort storm proofing your home while a massive storm is coming in is smart. Spending 6 hours rocking back and forth on a chair because you're worried about what that storm will do isn't.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    I think it’s partly not being able to manage your internal life and partly not being able to manage other people. Ie: when I’m in freeze stress response I cannot manage myself and so cannot manage other people. If I had more control over my dissociation, I’d be clear headed enough to learn how to manage other people. We cannot control other people, but we can (theoretically) control our response to them. So the problem isn’t other people, the problem is you not managing your reaction toward other people.

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  • [+] -9 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Ah yes, everyone else is wrong.

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  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago*

    Not every single time, but for the most part, yes.

    I've learned to manage the gap pretty successfully and if they get a glimmer of self awareness I will absolutely do my best to nurture it and that works pretty darn well. Only the absolute worst never catch on, but they tend to be the people who can never admit to being wrong while constantly fucking things up by not doing the bare minimum.

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