Feeling judged by my female friends.

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[–] 25 points 4 months ago (20 children)

If you’re cleaning the toilet and doing laundry regularly you’re already ahead of a lot of men. As long as you have a clean way to prep food and no health hazards in the environment the rest is bonus points as far as I’m concerned. Yeah, there’s an unfolded bag of laundry in my room and clutter on the coffee table; I live here.

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  • [–] 16 points 4 months ago* (8 children)

    There was once a conversation at my work through which I discovered that most of my male coworkers enjoy baking (and yes, I also enjoy baking).

    Simultaneously funniest and saddest part of that was one lady sitting through that conversation with thousand yards stare, who previously said that her husband, in terms of household chores, doesn't even know how to use washing machine.

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  • [–] 10 points 4 months ago (6 children)

    It's still prevalent unfortunately.

    My ex-husband once woke me up at 4am to yell at me about not having clean socks.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Sad that it had to happen to you.

    I also absolutely acknowledge that in society that we have today - things like cooking or even basic ones like proper hygiene (as in not using one bar of soap for everything) are something that is expected from women by default, but men doing that are treated as something special.

    That said, I'm kind of a hypocrite since while I tout about all that, I definitely used my baking to impress women. 🌝

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  • [–] 10 points 4 months ago* (8 children)

    If you’re cleaning the toilet and doing laundry regularly you’re already ahead of a lot of men.

    There was a time that I had my slut-era post divorce and was seeing several different people. At one point, I was over at 3 different men's houses over the course of a couple days and not a single one of them had handsoap anywhere in their house. I had a laugh ngl.

    But also maybe give the shower a scrub once in a while along with the toilet, yeah?

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (5 children)

    I have a built-in hand soap pump in the kitchen, and a big bottle in the bathroom. Plus, separate refill bottles for each. No one wants to come over to my house. With the popularity of the bad-boy archetype, I have to wonder if there's some sort of correlation?

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    These men were not of the bad-boy archetype hahahaha

    They were just bachelors and some guys are cleaner than others.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Understood! I'm just thinking about my own life, where I feel like I've noticed an inverse correlation between conscientiousness and sexual attractiveness in the men that I know.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    Ah my anecdotal experiences would counter that inverse correlation ;)

    Men who are conscientious, kind, and have emotional intelligence are incredibly more sexy than the reverse. But then we’re wandering into topics of personal attraction and turn ons and we could talk all day about individual preferences haha

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I like to cook and preserve food, so my kitchen is clean. Also keep up on the dishes and do the kitchen floor twice a week. If I leave clean laundry around that's where the dogs want to curl up and nap.

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