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Why do Asexual (Aroace) people get discriminated? (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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They are not even doing anything sexually. Why is their inaction offending people?

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[–] 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

We are? Demi here, so ace adjacent. Ace and Demi have sex, it’s just not a primary motivator.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Ace and Demi have sex, it’s just not a primary motivator.

    I am totally ignorant here, is there a difference between a low sex drive and asexuality? My expectation was that sex is not a primary motivator for someone with a low sex drive while someone who is asexual is not sex-motivated at all (like having sex is entirely treated as caring for someone else's needs).

    I'm hoping this reads as sincere, I always worry about whether my phrasing will come across as rude whenever I'm this spectacularly out-of-touch.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    It's perfectly okay to ask. I have questions about others I'm afraid to ask sometimes. It's fine.

    I'm demisexual, which means I'm only really attracted to people I really know well (but not like, family, that would be weird and etc). So there's my wife and there's everyone else.

    I have a pretty high sex drive, it's just not for just anyone. It's also not quite the same as monogamy. Maybe it partly is? Maybe monogamy can manifest as a symptom of demisexuality but both can exist on their own without the other? If it's a Venn diagram, I don't know where I fall. I think, in the middle, because while I was raised on traditional values and believe in honouring a marriage, I can also talk to women of all ages (much older, much younger, my age) and I don't feel attracted to them. Porn is like "that's nice and I can look but I don't want to interact with it."

    I can't speak for those who are purely asexual.

    I don't even have all the answers for demis.

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