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[–] 19 points 4 months ago (2 children)

You got a lot of life and exploration ahead of you. Go slowly and safely, communication is key and you will be fine. I would suggest consulting with a gynecologist though. Also to answer your question.

Only about 18% of women report reaching orgasm from vaginal penetration without any additional clitoral stimulation.

Roughly 36% of women can orgasm during penetration if their clitoris is stimulated at the same time.

Up to 80% of women require clitoral stimulation (either alone or combined with penetration) as their most reliable route to orgasm.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    This is a absolutely true but I think it's important to note given the context that there's a wide gap between "not orgasming" and the pain OP was describing. 80% of women not orgasming from vaginal penetration alone does not equal 80% of women experience pain from sex instead.

    Also, many women enjoy vaginal penetration as a fun and pleasurable experience, even if it's not an experience that leads to orgasm on its own.

    I'm sure the person I'm replying to knows this, but given that this post is about a confused and frustrated person, I don't want them to see this 80% statistic and think the takeaway is "sex is bad for 80% of women"

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago*

    Very true, I figured they've already gotten that from the plethora of other comments but yeah no harm in keeping it less vague. No pleasure or less pleasure doesn't mean pain or pressure. Also the 80% is 80% of women consistently having pleasure not 80% not having pleasure. Absolutely having no pleasure from anything would be not unheard of but pretty uncommon.

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