I'm of the opinion that a lot of people if not most arguably don't really make a choice about who they are. They don't live with intentionality, they don't consider their agency, they just run on autopilot with the baseline personhood they were built with.
There's a good chance that Elon has never made a real choice in his life. He's probably one of the most pathetic people in the world.
Not to say that absolves blame, you're absolutely responsible for your own actions and lack of thinking.