As someone who self-identifies almost the same exact way: yes, shit's way beyond infuriating.

Like I’ve spent 30 YEARS thinking of how to fix this busted system

The only conclusion I routinely come to is that this whole place operates like one gigantic work camp, and (in a way) we're still in the colonial era, built on top of centuries of extractive capitalism. We've made some progress by eliminating slavery, but the actual colonialism part has concluded within the continental US; it's still happening elsewhere. The suffering doesn't stop until we dramatically curtail incentives for exploitation of all forms.

There's a bunch of ways that could take shape, but as you suggest, they all require a change in attitude to pull off.